On Regaining Your Grip

"Sometimes the breakdown is needed for the breakthrough.”

This affirmation has been my pillar and my reminder to regain my grip, in all the chaos that is life.

Let me rewind.

No one plans for setbacks.
No one plans for heartbreak.
No one plans for hardships. 

And yet, they remain inevitable. 

The fact that we don’t want them, doesn't mean we won’t face them. 

And then what? 

The Setbacks of Life

I’m not gonna sugar it, life can indeed chew us up and spit us out at times. 

Breakups, loss of jobs, loss of career, the list goes on. It’s our humanness, in these situations, that leaves us feeling confused and lost. 

For most, a part of our upbringing was “to get up and suck it up.” And while it might not phase you now, likely, you’re still subconsciously subscribing to this belief. 

Now, I’m not one for whining — but I also acknowledge the complexity of emotions that come with loss. 

So first off, be gentle with yourself.

The Complexities of Emotions

If you’re to build the skill of “regaining your grip,” you first must build the skill of holding what’s true for you. The “get up and suck it up” mentality might help you get the dishes done at that moment, but it won’t build you up to hold your emotions, move with them, and through them, for a lifetime.

The importance of facing your emotions is vital for true growth. While you might think that burying things under the rug is what builds you —  it’s letting yourself crumble that creates the foundation for true re-building.

Emotions want to be seen. They want to be felt and heard. They’re here to be fully expressed. Any holding back of what you’re truly feeling will create gaps in your journey to evolving. 

Unexpected things will occur. Once you give yourself grace, give yourself space to let it all come up. 

Onwards & Upwards

Loss, or setback, of any kind, creates cloudiness. It distorts your ability to see past what you’re feeling in that moment. And depending on the severity of the setback, it’ll fog up your sight for a while. 

One way of regaining your grip is to accept setbacks.

When holding on to anything too tightly, you suffocate its ability to breathe and flow. This applies to holding on too tightly to the “way you thought things would play out.” Having a clear felt vision is great, but you must leave room for it to move and shape in the ways the universe sees fit for you.

Regaining your grip becomes a dance of polarity between letting go of control and learning to reclaim it.

In this way of approaching life, you surrender to setbacks as Divinely guided roadmaps to your legacy.